I was having a conversation with a couple yesterday about “kids at weddings”. I see a whole bunch of chatter about this, to exclude or not exclude, and have come to a few conclusions.
I’m assuming that the people who ask guests not to bring kids are doing this from some prior experience at weddings where the kids misbehaved. Weddings are an adult system, and like many adult systems they’re structured in ways that don’t make a lot of sense to kids. Why are they all sitting down? Why is there an aisle? Why does Grandad have to dance with Mummy now? Why do we have to go and do all these photos instead of eating cake? CAKE!
I’d argue that the more we start making our own decisions around celebrating, instead of only subscribing to an industry model built on conformity, the more I feel that children will have an easier time at weddings. I’d go as far as to say that they’re the canary in the coal mine for the rest of us.